Mental internal friction
By Zhang Zhaohan April 2, 2025
People tend to live in the expectations of others, consciously or unconsciously, trying to satisfy everyone’s requirements and make everyone around them happy. Always caring about other people’s opinions and evaluations, letting your heart and emotions be in constant conflict and tension, and exhausted, this is a kind of mental internal friction!
Keep looking for past reasons for your current situation. For example, the trauma of the original family, such as the stupid things you did when you were young. There are some things that I feel deeply guilty or regretful about today. The so-called heroes are most afraid of their old neighbors. The past cannot be changed. Being overly obsessed with the past and worrying about the future is also a kind of internal friction!
These mental internal conflicts will affect people’s emotions, affect their judgment and decision-making in doing things at the moment, and affect people’s body and health!
Spending a lot of energy on guessing other people’s thoughts, maintaining your image in the eyes of others, constantly compromising and abusing yourself, you will eventually lose yourself and affect your health!
The original intention and ultimate goal of life experience is to pursue inner peace and live every day comfortably!
How to avoid this kind of mental internal friction?
The source of people’s troubles is interpersonal relationships. Clearly distinguishing one’s own affairs from other people’s affairs and subject separation are important weapons to get rid of mental internal friction. Only care about your own inner peace, and return all your attention to yourself; keep your boundaries, do not interfere in other people’s lives, and do not interfere in other people’s choices and lifestyles. Even your own parents and children, don’t get involved, even if your original intentions are well-intentioned!
Not getting involved in other people’s rights and wrongs does not make people become indifferent, but it requires the wisdom to distinguish between oneself and other people’s issues, and the courage to not be afraid of what others say.
Do your own thing well, walk your own path, live every day well, don’t get entangled in other people’s affairs, liberate yourself from fearless mental internal friction, and use your precious energy and energy on the things and people you want to do, and on your hobbies, so that you can live a relaxed and free life.