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When a woman and a man have sex, they both focus on the male orgasm, putting the female pleasure on the back burner. © Luckybusiness, Adobe Stock
by Annabelle Iglesias
reviewed by Xavier Demeersman
Published on June 5, 2025 at 3:28 PM
In heterosexual sexual relations, men experience orgasm more often than women. This difference between the sexes is not thought to be due to any physiological or psychological characteristic specific to women. A study sheds light on this mystery.
Having an orgasm every time you have sex with a man is unfortunately not a privilege shared by many women. On the other hand, men reach climax more frequently than their female partners, often ending the encounter abruptly and leaving the women unsatisfied… This is what is called an ” orgasm.”gap In English , this is a topic that has been extensively studied, noting a difference in orgasm frequency between men and women. However, this trend has not been observed in sexual relations between women or when women masturbate . This suggests that the problem may not stem from women’s bodies or their response to sexual stimuli, but rather from a dynamic within heterosexual relationships.
90% of men experience orgasm during every sexual encounter, compared to 54% of women.
Carly Wolfer, a social psychology researcher, conducted a 21-day online study. She focused on 127 heterosexual couples in monogamous relationships . The participants, aged between 18 and 40, reported being in a relationship with their partner for at least three months for the most recent couples and less than five years for the longest-standing couples. They were asked to complete an online questionnaire every evening for 21 days. The questions concerned their romantic and intimate experiences over the previous 24 hours. If the couples had had sexual intercourse during that time, they were asked about various aspects of their intimacy, including whether they had experienced orgasm and whether their sexual encounters had been satisfying.
Carly Wolfer and her team also developed a tool to measure the ” pursuit of orgasm ” in each partner. In other words, how each person tries to reach orgasm and how each tries to bring the other to orgasm during intercourse.
After analyzing the participants’ responses, the researchers found that 90% of men reported having an orgasm every time they had sex, while only 54% of women consistently experienced orgasm with their partners. The participants’ responses also showed that men were significantly more satisfied with their sexual encounters and orgasms than women.
Only 54% of women report experiencing orgasm during every sexual encounter. © Piotr Marcinski, Shutterstock
Male orgasm at the heart of heterosexual intercourse
This study, published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships , also reveals that men are more focused on achieving their own orgasm than on bringing their partner to orgasm. Even more surprisingly, they report feeling significant support from their partner in this pursuit, making their pleasure even more satisfying. This finding is confirmed by the responses of the women surveyed, as many stated that they focus on ways to bring their partner to orgasm during sex, a behavior less common among men. In other words, both men and women focus on male orgasm . ” Typically, when a man and a woman have sex, the man’s orgasm is the ultimate goal, and the woman’s takes a back seat. This explains why penetration (the easiest way to achieve male orgasm) is considered the ‘most important’ part of heterosexual intercourse, unlike clitoral stimulation (the best way to achieve female orgasm) , ” comments Carly Wolfer.
Being more attentive to others to reduce this gender gap
This significant difference between men and women in reaching orgasm is therefore not inevitable. Heterosexual couples can address it by being more attentive to each other. Rather than each partner focusing solely on the man’s orgasm, they should try to meet each other’s sexual needs to increase their chances of both experiencing pleasure during each encounter. ” This can involve, for example, exploring new positions and techniques that stimulate theclitoris”But also by communicating with the other person to find out what he/she likes or if he/she wants to have an orgasm , ” suggests the researcher.
Original:https://www.futura-sciences.com/sante/actualites/sexualite-femmes-jouissent-moins-hommes-etude-nous-devoile-raison-surprenante-122546/
